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Turns out I do have some history with my ex. My son has a particularly contentious relationship with her. He has gone years a couple of times with not speaking to her. With me she even went as far as falsifying work records to avoid paying child support. A letter from my lawyer to her employer changed that. Now she has fibromyalgia, hasn't worked for years, and was about too default on her mortgage. My son made her payments for a couple of months, while he bought her house. He just closed, and she got $50k in hand and her husband got the same. He got a great deal at that, but it will be work. She was basically a hoarder the last 5 years.
What it came down to for me, was never bad mouth her to him. Never say anything bad that he could hear, let him make his own decisions. Just do your best for your kids, and trust their intelligence and the morals that you have tried to instill in them. 90% of the time they will see what reality is eventually. It's not always an easy road though...